I don’t have food stamps but I need to know how to eat well for $4/day. Thank you for this.
HOLY SHIT
This cookbook is really amazing. I’ve used a couple of the recipes and they are so easy to follow. And in the beginning there are a bunch of really great tips for saving on food stuff.
Anonymous asked: hi internet dad. i need advice about my parents. they fight a lot, sometimes its small, and sometimes it gets bad. it usually happens late when im not in the room, but tonight they started fighting in front of me. thankfully it didn't get super bad and my dad left the room, but i almost had a panic attack because i didnt know what to do if things did get worse then. what should i do if im ever in that situation again and it starts to get worse?
hi internet dad. i need advice about my parents. they fight a lot, sometimes its small, and sometimes it gets bad. it usually happens late when im not in the room, but tonight they started fighting in front of me. thankfully it didn't get super bad and my dad left the room, but i almost had a panic attack because i didnt know what to do if things did get worse then. what should i do if im ever in that situation again and it starts to get worse?
This is a tough one.
They obviously have stuff they need to work out, and have not figured out how to do it in a healthy manner.
Although this affects you deeply, it is not your problem to deal with. As long as it is not getting actually physically violent, you need to steer clear of it. Just get out of there- go to your room and put some headphones on, go for a walk. There is literally nothing you can do while tempers are high. Anything you do can make it worse.
The only time for you to act is when tempers are not high. The next day would be ideal as things will have hopefully cooled off significantly. And even then, you do not confront them about the actual subject they were fighting about. Try talking to them individually about how their fighting affects you, how you don’t think it is healthy for them, and that you are worried. Let them know that it doesn’t matter to you what they are fighting about- They need to resolve it without yelling at each other. And they need to do it in a way that does not even indirectly involve you.
If this makes either of them angry at you, you need to keep your resolve, and your calm. If they yell, or verbally overpower you, wait for them to stop, and then tell them you need some time to reset and excuse yourself. Do not tell them to calm down. Never, in the history of ever, has that worked.
When you are ready, come back and tell them that you want to continue this conversation, but don’t feel like you can right now. Ask to follow up later in the week.
This forces them to contemplate what they said, and how they said it.
None of this is easy. Having your parents fight at anytime is difficult, especially openly in front of you. Just remember- You cannot get involved. Even if they try to get you on one of their sides, you can not get involved.
And all of this is null and void if there is physical violence involved. That is something completely different. If that is the case, let me know and we will see what we can do.
I hope this helps…and please check in so I know how you are doing.
Hugs to you. It will be ok.
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Funny how gay people are allowed to love being gay but trans people aren’t allowed to love being trans or else they’re faking 🤔
WHAT I MEAN is both gay and trans people are made to feel like predatory freaks, they both face extreme bigotry from people outside the community that causes terrible feelings of self hatred and internalized prejudice. And yet its normalized for gay people to feel immense pride and happiness over their identity, while the idea “no one would ever want to be trans” is deeply ingrained into the trans community. We’re expected to hate ourselves and we’re expected to wish we weren’t trans. But that mindset is just a symptom of self-loathing and internalized transphobia. We should be able to love ourselves, we should be able to have that same ammount of pride as cos gays, we should be able to say “yeah being trans can suck a lot sometimes! But it’s a part of who I am!” We should be allowed to not want to chang ourselves on such a fundamental level, because it’s okay to be trans. If gay people can feel pride in being gay without being called fakers then so should trans people.
Hey I would appreciate if people reblogged this version instead cause yall like to put words in my mouth
It’s okay that you’re not who you thought you would be
wow this is one of the softest things I have read on here.
I’m sure I’d feel the same way if I was a skinny white girl with blue eyes and blonde hair
this girl posted a picture featuring her cystic acne uncovered, something that’s extremely stigmatized, in order to make a statement and spread positivity.
that’s it. that’s all she did.
she didn’t say she was the face of people with acne or act like she has it harder than other people. she just shared a feature that i’m sure she’s been shamed for and has struggled to love.
she’s literally 17-years-old and you’re 27. stop being a dick to kids when they haven’t done anything wrong.
THANK YOU. shit.
#GrowingUpUgly
When guys in middle school would get dared by their friends to ask you out and see if you say yes as a jokeHow about growingupugly and then turning out sort of okay looking but you don’t know for sure because your self esteem is shot and you’re convinced you look awful?
#GrowingUpUgly
Being so wholly convinced of your hideousness that as an adult you now literally cannot even imagine that someone would pay you a compliment and mean it; the only conceivable thing that could be happening is that they’re either a) taking the piss like the boys in school used to or b) so repulsed by you that they feel sorry for you and are telling you you’re pretty because they think you need to hear it.Hurts how true this is though
I don’t know if this helps, but I’d like to say it anyway just in case it does.
None of you were ugly.
The other day I found a class picture from fourth grade and I looked everyone in it, and then I saw the “ugly girl” – the one people constantly harassed, whose desk kids would pretend was contaminated, the one kids would invent complex songs about just to voice their disgust toward her.
And she looked like a normal little girl.
She looked no different than the rest of the class.
She was never ugly. And I know that you may be thinking to yourself “but I WAS ugly” – I just want you to consider for a moment that maybe you weren’t.
Maybe you were tormented by your peers for no reason except that they were experimenting with and learning the rules of callous human cruelty that would define the rest of their lives – and recognizing this, the adults who should have protected you, let it happen. Cruelty and social shaming – the foundations of how human beings police their society is learned and it is practiced.
Since I’ve become an adult, I don’t recall ever seeing an “ugly” kid. Kids are all just strange-looking works in progress that the artist seems to have abandoned intending to finish them later.
I want you to think about our racist and unhealthy “standards of beauty”. Are any of the things that society fixates on as “ugly” truly ugly? No. We take things that are beautiful and we associate them with ugliness and badness and coarseness – to control them – to batter the will of the already oppressed down to the point where they think the abuse they receive is justified.
The children who demeaned you were learning to crush the human spirit to the point where the target internalizes all that hate and keeps hating themselves even when the bullies are no longer there. Those children were learning the sadism that defines our social hierarchy – we live in a culture where success is achieved through exploiting others.
No one deserves to be treated that way. LGBT children shouldn’t grow up ashamed of themselves. Black children shouldn’t grow up thinking white children are inherently prettier.
You were not ugly. You were told you were ugly so that people could have an “excuse” to target you, to ostracize you, to other you, and to abuse you.
An “ugly child” wouldn’t know they were ugly until someone TOLD them they were. They don’t grow up ugly, they grow up emotionally abused.
And still if you feel that you were the exception and you were objectively and unquestionably so ugly as a child that everyone noticed – even if you feel you are still that ugly now…
That doesn’t mean you don’t deserve love. It doesn’t mean you won’t find love, and trust and happiness.
You are worthy of respect. You have worth. You have value.
And if the rest of the world doesn’t seem to notice your worth – look at the evil and vile things the world does value and count yourself lucky not to be among that number.
There are people who will see your worth. There are people who will look at you and not see “ugliness” – they will see a friend, a mentor, a hero and even, yes, a lover.
If no one else says it today, and even if you can’t say it yourself, I would like to tell you that you are not ugly. That you were not ugly. That you did nothing wrong. That you did not deserve to be treated the way that you have been and that you deserve happiness and love and respect. And you will find it.
hey guys unpopular opinion but you’re not a bad person if you don’t care about every bad thing happening in the world all the time, or if you do care but you’re not constantly reblogging posts spreading awareness and information
it’s okay if you’re just on tumblr to have fun and reblog things you like or that make you happy.
humans aren’t made to process trauma and suffering on a worldwide scale without any breaks whatsoever & the internet has created an unprecedented access to bad news so please never feel guilty for scrolling past it because you can’t process it! and you’re not doing anything wrong & there’s no need to feel guilty
pick your battles. blacklist the stuff you can’t handle. it’s ok, there are people who will talk about those things, it doesn’t have to be you.
it’s ok if, for instance, human cruelty saps your energy instead of motivating you, so you focus on environmentalism. it’s ok if animals in trouble make you cry so you focus on humans. it’s ok if planet earth is too big so you focus on local politics.
hell, it’s ok if you’re not in a place where you can worry about anyone’s problems but your own for now. put on your own oxygen mask before assisting others.
op was a terf so I’m stealing the post but yeah if you’re called for jury duty and during the elimination process you’re asked if you’ve ever had any adverse experience with a man (harrassment or rape or any other male violence) just fuckin lie and say no & vote that fucker guilty bc they sure don’t screen for rapists on jury duty only survivors
I did this and sent a 40 year old man to jail for having sex with a 13 year old girl. Almost every day after each court session, I would burst into tears, sobbing uncontrollably because sitting in that courtroom was a trigger. I stuck it out because I was knew that girl deserved to feel like her voice was heard.
damn that’s incredibly brave of you thank you so much for sharing